Amazon Fire tablets have powerful parental controls that allow restricting screen time for your child. Here’s how to set them up.
First, open FreeTime app and tap on cog icon next to your child’s name:
Next, tap ‘Set Daily Goals & Time Limits’ under Child Settings:
Enable checkbox on top right on the next screen. Here you can set different schedule for weekdays and weekends:
Set Total Screen Time to how long you want to allow your child to use the tablet per day.
I suggest to also set Bedtime (curfew time) – you don’t want your child to stay up late or get up in the middle of the night to play games or watch videos. Our house rule is no devices after 8 pm.
You can also require your child to reach an educational goal before they can access entertainment content. For example your child should read books (on Fire tablet) for one hour before they could do anything else. That feature didn’t work for my son though – he would simply open a book and do something else while tapping on the screen from time to time waiting for the time to pass.
You can also restrict time by activity:
This lets you set time limit for using apps, reading books, listening to Audible, watching videos and browsing the web. I like to restrict using apps (that means playing games) and watching videos but leave reading books unrestricted.
Don’t forget to switch the tablet to your child profile before handing it over to your child.
TLDR: If we want our children to have a
positive and healthy relationship with technology, then we need to model these
behaviors for them. We need to practice what we preach.
I spend a lot of time wondering what the technological future will hold for my children. The world is changing so quickly, and more and more people have a device in their hands throughout the entire day. Nowadays many of us just wear technology around our wrist so we can have it attached to us at all times. Is this what I want for my kiddos? Do I want them to feel the need to be constantly connected to the digital world?
Whenever I start thinking
about how connected this world has become, I start to become nostalgic for the
ways things used to be. Do you remember going to dinner with friends and no one
looking at a phone? Do you remember having a conversation with your spouse without
him staring at a message on his watch? Do you remember a time when kids just
had to stare out the window on a long car trip instead of watching a video? Or
sit at a restaurant and just patiently wait instead of playing a game on a phone?
I long for this technology-free time. I hope that someday my children will get
to experience it: a moment to live in the now and disconnect, a moment to
breathe in the air and detach from the technology that surrounds us.
Upon reflection, I realize
that I cannot expect my kiddos to learn this on their own. Just like I teach
them to say “please” and “thank you,” to show respect to their grandparents,
and to tie their shoes, I must model this behavior for them. I am definitely
aware that they are watching everything I do and say. If I am constantly
attached to my phone, then someday they will be as well. If I want them to turn
off devices and breathe every once in awhile, then I need to show them this
behavior. I realize that I have to think of the advice I’m going to give them
as they get older, and then I need to model that behavior for them now. Easier
said than done, I’m sure.
Here are some goals for myself
so that hopefully as my children get older they can emulate some positive
1. Set limits on screen time
If you want to make sure your kiddos aren’t
on a screen 99% of their day, then you have to make sure you aren’t as well.
Turn off your phone (or at least put it on “Do Not Disturb”) for certain times
during the day. Close your laptop. Let your children see you without a screen
in your face. Set a timer and be tech-free for an hour or two each evening.
2. No technology during meals
You want your kids to focus on eating when
you are eating? Then you have to make the same commitment as well. No checking
emails or scrolling the news while you eat your breakfast. Concentrate on some
mindful eating practices. Make the rule that there are never devices at the
table when eating. This applies to restaurants as well.
3. Keep screens out of the bedrooms
Your kids would be too tempted if there
were a tablet right next to their beds, and you would be tempted as well. How
many of us sleep with our phone next to the bed? How many of us hope our
teenagers do not sleep next to their phones someday? I definitely want my child
sleeping and not texting or watching videos as he gets older. Plan to gather
all devices at night and keep them in a common area to charge (like a kitchen.)
These devices are off-limits when it’s time to relax and start getting ready
for bed. Everyone will sleep better without the distraction of technology.
4. Focus on one thing at a time
We will want our kids to be
fully present in whatever they choose to do. We need to demonstrate the same.
If someone is speaking to us, we must put the phone away. If I’m working on a
project on my laptop, I should not be streaming a video to the television and
texting friends on my phone at the same time. Focusing means choosing one thing
to which we devote our attention. Choose one thing and give it your all.
5. Never use a device while driving (duh!)
I think we all know this, but I feel
like it can never be said enough. I see my husband grab his phone while
driving, and our kids are in the back of the car. “What are you doing?!” I’ll say.
I cannot stand it. Not only is he putting our entire family in danger, but he
is also modeling for our children that this is okay. I do not want my boys to
be distracted drivers, so I need my husband to stop doing this. (I also want
all of us to stay alive so I also need him to stop for that reason too.)
6. Limit social media use
Just because something happens doesn’t mean you have to post it. I see adults make this error all of the time. Quit posting your life and start living it. Once my kids have access to social media, they need to still have a life that is not lived out for their “followers”. They need to be cautious and thoughtful. Those profiles never truly disappear. Adults need to remember this as well and model thoughtful social media etiquette.
Ultimately we only get so many hours here
on this earth. As parents, we want our children to live long, healthy, and
happy lives. We want them to have friends and create memories. But to do this,
they must be present. They have to shut down their devices and make true
connections with real-life people. How are they going to know how to do this
while living in this challenging world surrounded by technological influences
everywhere? We as parents are going to show them. We are going to wisely use
technology, but also shut it down and live in the moment. None of us want life
to pass us by while we are sitting behind a screen. And we certainly don’t want
that for our children.